ADHD does not grow out - about 60% of all children with ADHD symptoms still show individual abnormalities in adulthood, which can strain a partnership.
ADHD abnormalities in adulthood are very individual and can span different areas, but all have in common that they can complicate the relationship. Unfortunately, many adults are unaware that they have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and they simply take their abnormalities as a common thread through their CV. They think these are character traits that cannot be changed and that simply exaggerate their fellow human beings, in this case, the partners.
Living with ADHD is often anything but a picnic. Fewest partners exaggerate in the descriptions of the daily challenges. The biggest thing is probably to make the affected partner understand that he does not react "normally" and that one suffers completely from his behavior. Although ADHD abnormalities are individual, there are some basic building blocks that many adults have.
The list is not complete and the characteristics may vary in intensity, but ADHD can become an "explosive mix" in a partnership. People with ADHD often miss the so-called change of perspective. The ability to understand that other people have different feelings, desires and beliefs, in this case, is limited to nonexistent. Thus, when their wishes are not met or the partner has different views, the partners concerned are very angry. In these situations, the often limited impulse control is added. This means that those with ADHD can proverbially freak out, romp or behave like toddlers. But in these moments they can also become offensive and "mean" and try to persuade their partner by a "guilty conscience" to fulfill their wishes.
At these moments, many ADHD people start to argue, and the partner loses those discussions if he does not quit early. ADHD people have the ability to sell everything with these discussions. If you still think that the color is white, the affected people manage to sell that color as red - in discussing they are a unique tip, which in other circumstances, however, also represents an absolute strength.
The possibilities of de-escalation are just as individual as the ADHD abnormalities themselves. Partners of ADHD sufferers should be careful not to lose themselves and adhere to their wishes and views. If de-escalation and relaxation techniques are no longer sufficient and life is heavily burdened by the partner's mood swings or jealousy, a couple of therapist specializing in ADHD, a therapist or even a coach will help. The advantage here is that these helpings come "from outside" and are not emotionally biased.