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ADHD with parents: a problem for the whole family

ADHD with parents: a problem for the whole family

 

ADHD and ADD are among the most common disorders in childhood and adolescence. Scientists believe that between three and ten percent of them are affected. And ADHD is not growing. Which means that at least two million adults in the US suffer from it. Although they no longer behave like a hyperactive child, they show symptoms without being able to classify them. Many sufferers only recognize the disease itself when it is diagnosed with their own child.

The day was too short, once again you did not make it all, what you had planned and somehow it was chaotic. Such days are known to all parents. In ADHD sufferers, they are the rule. "In order to be able to understand many ADD adult difficulties at all, one needs to know to ADD in children," explains neurologists and psychiatrists, who together with his wife, a pediatrician with specialization Neuropediatrics and a psychologist wrote 'The ADD adult book'. "You need to know how ADD can affect development, what hurdles to overcome in school, and what failures it can have in life through this neurobiological disorder."

Today, sufferers are often harder than before

Only since the 90s of the 20th century has ADHD moved into public focus. But the Zappelphilippe and the dreamer, they have always been. And sometimes it's still just a matter of temperament today. Not everyone who is chaotic, unfocused and easily irritable suffers from ADHD and not every unrecognized person has suffered in the past. "In this context, one must also look at the social processes," explains Professor. An expert on ADHD from the University of Cologne, Everyone has to take care of themselves, which means that people affected by ADHD are more likely to attract more attention than in previous societies, and it still depends on context, in artistic professions is a behavior, as it puts an ADHD affected person to the day, much more tolerated than, for example, in a bank. “Living conditions are therefore very important in terms of impact.

Many fail on the subject of partnership and family

The symptoms in adults are similar to those of children. The restlessness, the impulsiveness and the inattentive, the forgetful, that remains. Quite typical is the inability to relax. You seem driven, you often start several works at the same time, but you do not really finish anything. Understandably, the attention disorders then often lead to poorer school or academic performance and thus impede the professional career. Cancellation of training, frequent changes of degree or later job are commonplace. But even when dealing with others, life is often difficult for adults affected by ADHD. Many fail when it comes to partnership and family. And sometimes the desire for a child is unconsciously a desire for stability that does not set in. The American psychologist Professor Russell Barkley deals not least because of personal experiences with his twin brother for decades with the disease. In 1996 he published a study stating that adulthood for adults with ADD is significantly lower, significantly increasing the divorce rate. With consequences for the children.

Not always from the negative point of view

"Once we determine if the criteria are right, then we will be diagnosed, using questionnaires developed by the World Health Organization (WHO), and we will try to find out where the resources are in a personal interview to be able to tie up right there.” Because every coaching starts from positive aspects, which are expanded. And there are many: Adults with ADHD are active, creative, open-minded and inquisitive. They have a sense of humor and can be very passionate and compassionate - all the ingredients that make good parents. An affected mother, having a father in question, can also be an advantage, too - on the right track: "These people have many ideas, pursue numerous, broad interests and they are able to absorb an incredible amount at the same time - In any case, that can positively affect the families. " In a tailor-made therapy, sufferers learn to concentrate better, to develop routines and to plan work processes. But they also learn to consciously take time for family and friends and then give them full attention.

An incorrect diagnosis can be a pain for entire families

Although it is becoming increasingly known that this neurological disorder affects not only children and adolescents, adults with ADHD are often put into the wrong diagnostic drawer due to concomitant symptoms. For example, many symptoms, such as feelings of overwork, fatigue, fears, and feelings of inferiority, correspond to the criteria of forms of depression. And indeed there is, as a study of the early 90s showed, a connection. But it's just the tip of the iceberg. As a result, despite years of therapy, if the diagnosis is wrong, the problem, and therefore the families, cannot be eradicated.

 






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