Everyone dealing with ADHD children faces new challenges every day. There are practical and easy ways to deal with these children a little easier. For example, a structured daily routine and certain behavioural guidelines can help the ADHD child and his family to cope better with the condition. Here are some tips on how everyday life can be handled a bit easier:
Clear rules and times
To give the everyday life a firm structure, is very important for the affected children. It makes sense to have a simple weekly schedule. The decisive factor is that parents, teachers and educators also follow their own rules. This is the only way they can help the child, for example, to make plans for class preparation, homework or other tasks. Stop and memory signs can, for example, raise the sense of responsibility and the fun of the homework ("attention: homework zone") or for smaller, well-defined tasks in the home.
Looking for a conversation with teachers Find the conversation with educators and teachers. Regular discussions allow all stakeholders to better assess the child's situation. In addition, they can contribute to a positive relationship between the child and the educator and help them understand their particularities. Ask the teacher to place the child in such a way that he is in constant contact with the child and can attract his attention time and again, possibly even without words using signal cards.
Fixed homework procedures Fixed processes promote concentration and help to calm down. They are particularly suitable for the homework situation: Homework should always be done in the same place and at the same time of day. It is advisable to change between work and relaxation phases, for example 10 minutes of learning at the beginning and then 3 minutes at leisure. In addition, doing homework better in charming environment: Make sure that siblings and pets are not in the same room. Shield as much noise as possible: telephone, computer and TV should be on display. A tidy desk, which is free of toys, free time reading and food, is less irritating. Especially useful are weekly and class work schedules that structure learning. Even a clock or egg timer can help, which clearly heralds the learning and relaxation phases. At the end of the homework, the satchel should always be packed for the next day and the desk should be cleaned up. Homework is particularly stressful for ADHD children. Praise your child when it's done.
Reward system More effective than ranting and punishing is praising the positive behaviours. Praising and rewarding should be predictable as well as a fixed daily routine for the child. A special reward plan can be helpful, which is visible to everyone at the door or in the kitchen. Each rewarding behaviour is noted with a corresponding score and "rewarded" with the previously agreed reward.
Feedback to the children / adolescents Just as reward should always be direct, blame or punishment appropriate to the failure should not be deferred. In this way, the children can develop a sense of the consequences of their behavior - if they follow the rules or not. In the negative case often helps an open conversation with the child so that it understands that something is not right.
Free space for urge to move Since ADHD-ill children are usually characterized by hyperactivity, i.e. an extremely strong urge to move, it is important to direct this urge to move in the right direction. Targeted sports activities should be encouraged, so that the children can "let off steam" and let off steam. For concentrated learning phases this also means that every now and then short movement times have to be allowed. After half of the homework, a few stretching exercises such as the "jumping jack" or "grabbing for the birds in the air" could make the "inner motor" of ADHD children run a little calmer.
Support and promote positive qualities ADHD children have many positive traits and behaviors such as creativity and helpfulness. Identifying, promoting and using the strengths as often as possible is an important task for you. You can support the "Diary of big and small successes". In it, successes of everyday life can be documented. This promotes the motivation and self-confidence of the ADHD child.
Show affection Despite all the problems and difficulties, ADHD children need a lot of love and affection. You have to be able to see and feel them. For parents, teachers and educators this means that they should show this again and again. The special qualities and abilities of ADHD children - creativity, inventiveness and spontaneity - should be encouraged and praised. The child needs to feel accepted, and should keep hearing: "It is good that you are there!"
How can the child be accompanied during the treatment?
Close cooperation between parents, doctors, therapists and teachers is essential for a positive course of treatment. The parents are very involved in the treatment process. In many cases, the doctor asks her to document the behaviour of the children during the course of treatment in special questionnaires. This requires the parents to closely monitor the behavioural changes of their children during therapy. The success of a treatment is not immediately apparent. As with many other disorders, treatment success is greatest when both treatment and collaboration between stakeholders is continuous over a longer period of time.
What should the parents of affected children consider?
The often difficult moments in living together and in the company of ADHD children often stress parents very much. Therefore, they should treat themselves to a little break now and then and quite consciously do something without their child. Recovery periods are important, because if the parents can deal more relaxed with disputes, the child is better.
Contacting other parents in a support group can help. Their experiences and problems can be exchanged as well as auxiliary and information offers can be used. It is reassuring to realize that you are not alone and that other parents also have problems coping with their ADHD-ill children.
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